What your procrastination is trying to tell you


Last week, I found myself spending nearly an hour organizing my already-tidy office instead of making a phone call that could transform my business. The number sat on my desk, written on a crumpled piece of paper. One call. Fifteen minutes. Potentially life-changing.

Yet there I was, organizing staplers. What was keeping me from picking up the phone and making the call?

If you’ve ever found yourself suddenly fascinated by organizing your sock drawer when faced with an important task, you’re not alone. We’ve all been there—caught in that peculiar dance where everything except the thing we need to do becomes urgently important.

But what if I told you that your procrastination isn’t a character flaw? What if it’s actually pointing to something else going on beneath the surface?

After nearly two decades of working with leaders and studying human behavior, I’ve discovered there are only five core reasons you procrastinate. Understanding which one is driving your avoidance can transform how you relate to resistance and, more importantly, what you do about it.

Five Reasons You Procrastinate (And What Your Resistance Is Really Telling You)

1. You’re Scared (And That’s Actually Good News)

Fear-based procrastination often disguises itself brilliantly. You’re not avoiding the task because you’re scared—oh no, you’re just doing more “research.” You’re perfecting your approach. You’re waiting for the right moment.

I remember coaching a talented writer who had been “almost ready” to submit his novel to publishers for eight months. He kept finding one more thing to revise, one more beta reader to consult. During our conversation, he finally admitted the truth: “What if it’s not good enough? What if I’m not good enough?”

His procrastination wasn’t about the book—it was about protecting himself from potential rejection.

What fear-based procrastination looks like:

  • Endless research without action
  • Perfectionism that prevents completion
  • “Waiting for the right time” (which never comes)
  • Avoiding tasks that could lead to visibility or judgment
  • Finding urgent busy work when facing important decisions

Real-world examples:

  • The executive who keeps postponing the difficult conversation with her underperforming team member
  • The artist who won’t share his work because “it needs more polish”
  • The entrepreneur who researches business ideas for months but never launches
  • The parent who avoids scheduling their teenager’s college prep because it feels too overwhelming

Try this: Next time you catch yourself in endless preparation mode, pause and ask: “What am I really afraid might happen if I take action?” Often, naming the fear dissolves much of its power.

2. You’re Not Clear (And Confusion Creates Paralysis)

Confusion is procrastination’s best friend. When your mind can’t create a clear path forward, it defaults to avoidance. This isn’t laziness—it’s your brain protecting you from taking action without adequate information.

Think about the last time you stared at a project and felt overwhelmed. Chances are, the overwhelm wasn’t about the work itself but about not knowing where to start, what the real priority was, or what success would even look like.

A client once came to me frustrated about a strategic planning project she’d been avoiding for weeks. When we broke it down, she realized she wasn’t procrastinating because she didn’t want to do it—she was stuck because her manager had given her unclear directions like “make it innovative” without clear parameters or desired outcomes.

What clarity-based procrastination looks like:

  • Feeling overwhelmed by the size or complexity of a task
  • Not knowing where to start or what the first step should be
  • Lacking clear success criteria or deadlines
  • Having too many priorities competing for attention
  • Missing key information or resources needed to proceed

Real-world examples:

  • The manager avoiding the quarterly review because the process seems undefined
  • The student putting off the research paper because the topic feels too broad
  • The homeowner delaying the kitchen renovation because there are too many decisions to coordinate
  • The professional postponing the career change because the path forward isn’t clear

Try this: Before diving into overwhelming tasks, spend ten minutes asking yourself: “What would need to be true for this to feel manageable?” Then identify the smallest possible first step and take it.

3. You’re Misaligned (Your Inner Wisdom Is Speaking)

Sometimes procrastination is your authentic self saying, “This doesn’t fit who I am or who I’m becoming.” This type of resistance often feels different—less anxious, more like a quiet but persistent “no” from somewhere deep inside.

I experienced this myself when I kept postponing work on a consulting project that looked perfect on paper. Good client, good money, work I was qualified to do. Yet I found myself avoiding it week after week. When I finally sat with the resistance, I realized the project required me to present ideas I no longer believed in. My procrastination was protecting my integrity.

What misalignment-based procrastination looks like:

  • Feeling drained just thinking about certain tasks
  • Repeatedly postponing things that should be easy or routine
  • Resistance that doesn’t seem to have a logical explanation
  • Avoiding commitments that don’t reflect your current values or vision
  • Tasks that feel like “shoulds” rather than genuine desires or responsibilities

Real-world examples:

  • The lawyer who keeps postponing work in a practice area that no longer interests her
  • The volunteer avoiding committee meetings because the organization’s direction has changed
  • The employee procrastinating on projects that conflict with his personal values
  • The parent putting off activities they’ve committed to that don’t align with their family’s priorities

Try this: Ask yourself, “If I were fully aligned with my authentic self, would I still choose to do this?” If the answer is no, consider whether you can modify the task, delegate it, or gracefully bow out.

4. You Shouldn’t Be Doing It At All

This is perhaps the most liberating reason to procrastinate: sometimes your resistance is absolutely correct. The task shouldn’t be on your plate in the first place.

Maybe you said yes when you should have said no. Maybe circumstances have changed since you made the commitment. Maybe someone else is better suited for the work. Your procrastination might be your inner wisdom protecting you from wasting time and energy on the wrong things.

A nonprofit director I coached kept avoiding writing grant proposals for a program she’d committed to launching. After weeks of self-judgment about her procrastination, she realized the program itself was misguided—it would duplicate services already available in the community. Her resistance saved her organization from pursuing an ineffective initiative.

What “shouldn’t do it” procrastination looks like:

  • Tasks that feel pointless or redundant
  • Commitments made under pressure or outdated circumstances
  • Work that duplicates others’ efforts unnecessarily
  • Projects that no longer serve their intended purpose
  • Responsibilities that have outlived their usefulness

Real-world examples:

  • The report that no one actually reads or uses
  • The meeting that could be an email (or eliminated entirely)
  • The commitment you made six months ago that no longer makes sense
  • The project that’s become irrelevant due to changing circumstances
  • The task you agreed to before understanding what it really involved

Try this: Before pushing through resistance, ask: “What would happen if this never got done?” If the honest answer is “not much,” consider whether you need to do it at all.

5. Someone Else Should Be Doing It Instead

The final reason for procrastination is recognizing that you’re not the right person for the job. This doesn’t mean you’re incapable—it means someone else would do it better, faster, cheaper, or with more enthusiasm.

One of my clients once spent months avoiding updating his company’s social media strategy. He kept telling himself he needed to “just buckle down and do it.” When we explored his resistance, he realized he was avoiding it because social media wasn’t his strength or interest. Within a week of hiring a social media specialist, the task was completed brilliantly. Now, he could focus on what he did best.

What “someone else should do it” procrastination looks like:

  • Tasks outside your zone of expertise or interest
  • Work that others could do more effectively
  • Responsibilities that don’t require your specific skills or authority
  • Projects that drain your energy while energizing others
  • Administrative tasks that keep you from higher-value work

Real-world examples:

  • The entrepreneur doing bookkeeping instead of focusing on strategy
  • The executive formatting presentations instead of preparing content
  • The creative professional handling scheduling instead of creating
  • The manager doing work that could develop a team member’s skills
  • The parent taking on school activities that other volunteers would enjoy

Try this: For tasks you keep avoiding, ask: “Who would actually enjoy doing this or do it more effectively than I would?” Then explore options for delegation, collaboration, or hiring.

Moving Beyond Procrastination: A Practical Framework

Now that you understand the five core reasons you procrastinate, here’s a simple framework to work with your resistance instead of against it:

Step 1: Pause and acknowledge. Instead of judging yourself for procrastinating, recognize it as valuable information. Your resistance is trying to tell you something.

Step 2: Identify the type. Which of the five reasons you procrastinate resonates most with your current situation? Fear, confusion, misalignment, shoulds, or wrong person for the job?

Step 3: Respond appropriately:

  • Fear: Feel it and move forward anyway, with support if needed
  • Confusion: Get clear before taking action
  • Misalignment: Explore whether this truly belongs on your plate
  • Shouldn’t do it: Consider eliminating the task entirely
  • Wrong person: Find who should be doing it instead

Step 4: Take aligned action. Once you understand what your procrastination is telling you, you can respond wisely rather than just pushing through.

The Deeper Truth About Procrastination

Here’s what I’ve discovered after years of working with my own procrastination patterns and helping others understand theirs: all five reasons you procrastinate ultimately point to the same thing—misalignment.

When I find myself procrastinating now, I don’t ask, “Why am I procrastinating?” Instead, I take a few moments to ground myself in my heart, and ask myself, “Where is the misalignment?” Am I misaligned with the task, the vision, the timing, my values, my role, or my capacity?

In doing this, procrastination is no longer the enemy. Instead, it’s become an invitation to realigned with what truly matters and what genuinely serves both me and others.

Sometimes we’re misaligned with ourselves, trying to force action when we’re scared or unclear. Sometimes we’re misaligned with the work itself, pushing forward on tasks that don’t fit our gifts or purpose. Sometimes we’re misaligned with timing, attempting things before we’re ready or after they’ve outlived their usefulness.

The key is tapping into and developing the inner wisdom to discern where the misalignment is and doing whatever it is you need to realign yourself with the task you’re avoiding.

Final Thoughts

Your procrastination patterns aren’t random, and they’re certainly not character flaws. They’re part of a feedback systems designed to help you live and work more congruently and authentically.

The next time you catch yourself avoiding something important, resist the urge to shame yourself into action. Instead, get curious. What is this resistance trying to protect? What information is it offering? Where might you be out of alignment?

When you start treating procrastination as a teacher rather than an enemy, you’ll discover that it often guides you toward better decisions than the ones you would have made by simply pushing through.

Remember, when you’re in alignment, action flows naturally. When you find yourself consistently forcing things that should feel easier, pay attention. Consult your feeling heart and let it guide you toward choices that honor both your authentic self and your genuine responsibilities.

—Gabriel


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The Feeling Heart

Gabriel Gonsalves is a Heart Leadership & Mastery Coach, spiritual teacher, and artist dedicated to helping people awaken their hearts, live authentically, and lead with purpose and joy.

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